If you have never heard Death Cab for Cutie’s single, “I Will Follow You Into The Dark,” then you are missing out. The chorus is haunting, but it was the second verse that caught my attention:

In catholic school, as vicious as Roman rule
I got my knuckles bruised by a lady in black
And I held my tongue as she told me
“Son, fear is the heart of love”
So I never went back

If heaven and hell decide that they both are satisfied
Illuminate the no’s on their vacancy signs
If there’s no one beside you when your soul embarks
Then I’ll follow you into the dark

If I were told that fear is the heart of love, I wouldn’t have gone back either. I wouldn’t be a priest and I have no idea where I would be today or what I would be doing. Statements like that are so crushing. I feel the message of the gospel is clear when it says, “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment.” (1Jn 4:18)